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A Young Couple Evaluates Their Abusive And Heavy Drinking And Their Short And Long-Term Goals, Aspirations, And Dreams
Frank and Linda have been dating for six-and-a-half years. They met while enrolled in the same speech communications class at a medium size, rural, private liberal arts college located in the Southern part of the United States. While they were basically good pals at first, they eventually started to date when they were in their third year of college.
Due to the fact both of them came from very strict backgrounds, neither one of them drank very much beyond the experimental stage when they first started to date. As the time passed by, nevertheless, they began to go to more keg parties, football bashes, happy hours, and sorority and fraternity parties. As a consequence, they gradually began to drink more as time went by.
After they graduated, they both landed jobs in a relatively small city located nearly eighty-five miles from their undergraduate college. Then they eventually made up their mind to move in with each other.
With any important change in an individual's life there is generally something that triggers the particular change in question. For Linda and Frank the thought of having children and buying a new house was this "change agent." Stated more forcefully, for the first time in their lives, Frank and Linda started to critically evaluate their excessive and irresponsible drinking and the alcohol long term effects on their health. As an example, they began to wonder if they would ever experience an alcohol overdose due to their excessive and hazardous drinking.
Would their excessive and hazardous drinking negatively affect their ability to have children? How would they be able to continue spending most of their money on drinking if they were to begin saving for a new house?
From a different viewpoint, even though neither one of them ever experienced alcohol poisoning, received a "drunk driving" arrest, or experienced alcohol poisoning symptoms, they realized that their hazardous and excessive drinking was becoming a problem that they could not discount any longer. All of these queries undoubtedly led to the same conclusion, namely that Linda and Frank needed to understand that they couldn't maintain their hazardous and heavy drinking if their aspirations, goals, and dreams were to be brought to fruition.
Once they settled upon this conclusion, they told their drinking buddies about their their goal of buying or building a new house, about their marital plans, and about their plans to start a family. They also told their drinking pals that they still wanted to hang around with them but that they would be drinking responsibly from this moment forward so that they could start to realize their future dreams, aspirations, and hopes.
Much to their astonishment, all of their pals expressed relief because they too had been reflecting on their lives and concluded that their life-styles were much too frequently focused on drinking. They also thought that they would have to change drastically if they were to become more mature and manifest more respect for their careers, their health, and for their goals in the next five or ten years.
After their candid discussion with their buddies about their dreams, goals, and aspirations, Linda and Frank in essence started to have more meaningful relationships with all of their friends. The main reason for this was the fact that all of them had the same outlook regarding their irresponsible and excessive drinking and their short and long-term aspirations, goals, and plans.
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